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03.02.09
Posted in Relationships Parlor at 9:27 am by admin
Introduction: This article, represent the present situation of “Human Relations” in India. Here we will be talking about “Expectations” of a boy from a girl or vice-versa before marriage or what they look in their would-be before agreeing for “Marriage” or before accepting the proposal. To prepare this article, I interacted with 770 people across the country, covering cities like Delhi-NCR; Mumbai;Chennai; Kolkata; Pune; Hyderabad; Bangalore and Chandigarh.
In last 5 yrs more people applied for divorce in different courts in India than they did in last 50 yrs. One of the reason is that the “Expectations of Spouses” are changing. What are these expectations? Lets have a look.
Expectations (Conditions) of a female from a male…before accepting the proposal:
Security of Present (A guy must be employed, working
in a reputed company, at a powerful position and of
course with a handsome salary package…the more it is
the better it is.
Good Education (Preferably from Good…reputed
institute)
Security of Future (Must have dreams to chase; goals
to achieve. In short, must have potential to become
known, famous and popular)
Intelligence
Wealth
Looks and Appearance
Love and Care for her
Character and Values of a Guy
Respect for her parents and her relatives
Should not look at other girls or even have any
thought about them
(Order of Preference may vary from girl-to-girl)
Expectations (Conditions) of a male from a female…before accepting the proposal:
Looks, features and other physical attributes
Respect for his parents and relatives
Character and Values of girl
Social – Status of the family
Financial Status of the family
Past of the girl
Education
Emotional Stability
Must be willing to take-up household responsibilities
Should support him in all situations and circumstances
Considering the present economic scenario…she is
expected to be a professional
(Order of Preference may vary from Male-to-Male)
Conclusion
These inputs are given by different people…males and females included…across the country and present a broad picture of mindsets of people, who are in the age-group of 20-35 yrs of age. This is not restricted to or represents the views or any particular region; religion or community.
None of the above mentioned traits or qualities are illogical or irrational. But, one should set his or her priority list. You may not find all these qualities in one person but one can try to find the maximum or most important qualities. Its your life so
plan it properly. Don’t blame on others or God or on your fate. Decide what is important for you and then take a decision.
Looking forward to your comments and feedback.
With lots of love and care,
Sanjeev Himachali
(Mobile: +91-9876328841)
(E-mail: ss_himachali@yahoo.com;
sanjeev.himachali@gmail.com)
(Blog: http://sanjeevhimachali.blogspot.com/)
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03.01.09
Posted in Relationships Parlor at 11:20 pm by admin
At one time in my life I lead my marriage under my own understanding of what I thought was righteous and good. I was all-powerful. God? Who’s that? I was rebellious and stubborn to my husband because I was married to my selfish lifestyle and wayward beliefs that kept me from accepting and recognizing God.
I rejected my husband sexually because I often thought all he wanted was sex. How could anyone love me, after all I didn’t like the person who I had become? I rejected God for my life too, and that was the biggest mistake I had ever made.
I wanted to be in control just like most women want to be in control of their destiny and their life. And women do control well. In many marriages today women control the ship with poisonous demands while their husband’s cringe in the galleys like little lost boys who can’t find their way home. This is really happening, folks, and most people take it all in with a grain of salt. It makes movies like Broke Back Mountain come alive in its all its perverted sexuality.
Hollywood filmmakers and the Foreign Press promote and support the woman’s movement by slowly creating men to be distorted wimpy guys. The agenda has been going on for sometime now. It is a slow brainwash movement through the use of Hollywood and TV to make people think it is acceptable to be homosexual. Whether this is done for political reasons or not, it doesn’t matter because it is all in direct rebellion to God of Creation.
I truly don’t believe there are so many perverted individuals in the world to elect this garbage for top performance. These Hollywood programs are rigged. It is a bunch of propaganda to get people to give in and to believe in them instead of God.
Ask yourself this. Did God make another man out of the rib of Adam to be his companion? How could two men make babies and multiply the earth? They would both die old men and creation would be over!! Did God give Eve a penis? Why is woman made with such beauty and sexual care if not to give the “real man” great satisfaction in bed?
[Do not lie with a man as one lies with a woman; … Leviticus 18:22]
Did you know that that according to the Golden Globe Awards the top motion picture in Hollywood this year is about a couple of gay cowboys? This establishes a precedent for Hollywood to continue making more perverted trash. It’s nothing but filth! Is this what you want your children to watch?
When debauched films like BrokeBack Mountain become highly praised for their outright deviance the world is surely living in Sodom. Ah yes, biblical history coming back alive in the world. It happens all the time. I don’t take the bible literally but you don’t have to!! Look at the whole theme of the bible and it will answer all your questions on morality and ethics.
[Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders or thieves or the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. 1Corinthians 6:9]
Why do you think there is so much divorce in this country? Some men are rethinking their own sexuality and deciding to go ahead and give the woman the lead to direct the ship to shore. They are bowing down to the woman’s movement because they have no spirituality, belief and religious conviction within them. They’re not the captains of their own ships because they themselves have no captain! This is the root of the problem. Where there is no God, there is no righteousness.
When a man does not allow God to command his own life he has no direction for his wife and family and cannot lead his home correctly because his heart does not hold the proper guidance of scripture. There is no spiritual conviction to lead the home. The woman will take advantage of her spiritual bankrupt husband and become out of control thinking she is really in control. She will become bossy, stubborn, controlling and rebellious in the marriage because she has been brainwashed into believing she is superior to her male counterpart.
You see this happening in Hollywood films all the time. You see it on TV every single night. Women being belligerent in the home, ignoring her children, committing adultery because she wants to have her own career and live the way SHE WANTS. It doesn’t matter what God wants for her.
Neither spouse realizes that the home only needs proper spiritual guidance to lead it according to its true purpose. To love, honor, and commit your self to one another.
It is an unethical philosophy taking over the mind of women today. It is destroying families. It is appalling how this accepted wisdom from the world is overtaking the minds of men. Men should be giving in to God, not some unspiritual woman who is trying to find her own way home and thinks she found it through some meaningless woman’s movement.
I believe that if a woman of the home can see clear enough to take her role as wife and mother seriously by acknowledging the spiritual Christ within her soul, she will see the truth for what it is. She doesn’t know that the truth will set her free from her self and that the unethical movement she is believing in is in direct rebellion to God and is untruth – a lie told by satan to break marriages apart.
[God made them male and female and said, "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh? So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate. Mathew 19:4]
She must FIRST fix herself before she can love the man she married. She will discover how unique she is of her husband in a good way, and that she can compliment and help buildup her husband rather than constantly battle with him for her missing self. She should not be hesitant to be the beautiful creature God made her to be.
[Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.] Titus 2:4-5
Bottom line is marriage is not designed to accommodate two captains. Have you ever seen two captains charting one ship? Have you ever seen two Chief Executive Officers controlling one corporation? Have you ever seen two master chefs in one restaurant? Have you ever seen two dentists in one office? Have you ever seen two train conductors guiding the train? You get my point, right?
What can a man do when his wife abuses his manhood and won’t let him lead? He desperately needs to become the spiritual leader of the home and take the lead in that arena now! Accept God for you life! Study the bible diligently and seek out all that God wants for you and your marriage. A man will never truly be happy until he realizes his purpose and calling in life and then goes after those things with gusto.
[Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a WISE MAN who built his house on the rock. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against the house; yet it did not fall, because if had its foundation on the rock.] Matthew 7:24-25
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01.27.09
Posted in Relationships Parlor at 2:47 am by admin
12 Months before the Wedding
When choosing the flowers for your big day, enquire with a selection of florists at least 12 months in advance of the wedding day. All good florists book up quickly. You may get lucky and there is a cancellation – not so lucky for someone else though! Ask friends what florist they used for their wedding. Personal recommendations are usually the best indicator of how good a florists work will be.
Ask for a one to one consultation. Expect the appointment to last about one hour; much shorter and the florist is not giving you a thorough service.
If possible take a photograph of the wedding dress along with you, or at the very least have a detailed description of the dress. The florist needs to know where any special detail is on the dress so as not to cover it with flowers.
Try and take swatches of attendant’s fabric with you. Your flowers should complement the outfits, not match.
Let the florist know what budget you have in mind so they can work to it.
Together with your florist you will work out the design and quantity of wedding flowers you desire.
After your initial consultation a quotation and a booking form should be sent out to you.
6 Months before the Wedding
Have another bridal consultation. You will need to take a sample of fabric for your dress and the bridesmaid’s dresses. This allows the florist to work out what flowers and in what combination best suit your unique wedding outfits.
Any decent florist will show you samples of all the flowers in your bouquet so you will know what to expect in the finished article.
The bridesmaid’s bouquets tend to be half the size of the brides or of a complementary design. At the moment (summer 2006), wrist designs are very popular.
The boutonniere for the groom is usually designed with a selection of flowers used in the bridal flowers.
The best man and the bride and grooms fathers tend to have a smaller version of the grooms boutonniere.
For the mothers, suggest the flowers are attached with a magnet. This will avoid getting pin marks in their outfits.
Most florists hire out vases for the table centre wedding flowers. An alternative would be to buy the ones you prefer (Ikea and Tesco seem to be popular shops for wedding vases!).
3 Weeks before the Wedding
Confirm the date and time of the wedding with your florist. Ensure that gift bouquets are ordered for the mothers. Your florist should provide two deliveries – one for the bride and one for the groom.
The Wedding Day
If your florist does not suggest it, ask for advice on how best to hold your flowers in order for them to look their best in the wedding photographs.
If you have a tied bouquet, let the hotel to place it in a vase for you.
Enjoy your special day!
Sasha Fenby is NDSF qualified head florist at Forget Me Not florists. Sasha regularly demonstrates her art throughout the UK and has taught floristry since 1999. You can send flowers via Sasha to the UK and worldwide by visiting her website http://www.WeLoveFlowers.co.uk.
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01.09.09
Posted in Relationships Parlor at 11:01 pm by admin
Here are a few common sense rules for writing and giving a best man wedding speech or toast. Let them be a mini-guide to help you gain control over the outcome of your toast.
Don’t Wait Until the Last Moment
Writing a best man toast isn’t always as easy as it seems. You’ll stress yourself unnecessarily if you think you can write a toast the night before the wedding but instead experience writer’s block.
Don’t Tell Bad Jokes
We expect toasts to have a joke or two, but everyone has different tastes. Try not to say anything that would offend the couple or guests. If a joke bombs, it makes you look bad.
Don’t Ramble On
Assume your audience has a short attention span and will tune you out if you don’t make your point right away. Stick with things that are relevant about the bride or groom.
Don’t Be Drunk
A little alcohol may loosen up some inhibitions, but too much will make you look like a fool. If you had prepared well for the speech beforehand, too much celebrating may have destroyed any chance of delivering the speech that might have been perfect.
Do Be Prepared
The more time you give yourself to plan, write and practice the wedding speech, the better your performance will be at the wedding party.
Do Ask For Feedback
Allow a friend to hear your speech and ask for constructive feedback. Re-write your speech and recite it aloud again until your friend thinks you got it right.
Do Be Yourself
Write and speak from your heart. Allow your personality to blossom from your speech. Being natural will make giving the wedding speech easier. Let the guest enjoy your uniqueness and they will appreciate your speech even more.
Do Enjoy Yourself
It’s uncomfortable to see and hear a nervous speaker. Everyone, including the speaker wants it to end. If you look like you enjoy being the best man and giving the toast, then everyone else will be at ease and enjoy listening. Try to have a little fun; after all, it is a wedding party.
Final Thought
You will be giving the best man toasts. You’ll never forget this life event. Make the most of it by putting 100% of yourself into it. You’ll never regret doing it if you do everything right.
Copyright © 2006 by Leroy Chan
Discover how to get your best man wedding speech or toast ready in 60 minutes or less. For more info, visit Leroy Chan’s site: Best Man Wedding Speeches.
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01.08.09
Posted in Relationships Parlor at 6:16 am by admin
(This is part 2 of a 5-part series on making marriage work)
Are you in a long-term relationship where you are either fighting a lot of the time or feeling distant, disconnected, and without passion? Or, do you find yourselves going along fine until a conflict arises, and then you can’t seem to find way to resolve it? Do you either try to win by getting angry and defensive, or give in to avoid the other’s anger and defensiveness? Do you find yourself shut down, numbed out, or resistant much of the time? Do you and your partner love each other, but resentment is building because of all the unresolved conflicts and communication problems?
Relationship issues occur when the dual fears of loss of another’s love (rejection) and loss of self (engulfment) have been triggered. Each of us has learned protective ways of trying to have control over getting the love we need and avoiding the pain we believe we can’t handle. As soon as one of these fears is triggered, we automatically go into our learned ways of protecting against pain and trying to control the other person into being the way we want them to be. When we get angry, give in, withdraw or resist, this protective, controlling behavior often activates our partner’s protective controlling behavior. The interactions that follow may be filled with anger, blame, judgment, defensiveness, explaining, denying, withdrawal and resistance. Love does not flourish in the face of these difficult interactions.
In this series, I will show you how the 6-Step process of Inner Bonding can be used to completely change your relationship.
A simplified version of The Six Steps are:
1. Willingness
2. Choose the intent to learn
3. Dialogue with the feelings
4. Dialogue with your Higher Power
5. Take loving action
6. Evaluate the action.
We will start with Step One of Inner Bonding: WILLINGNESS. In Step One, you choose to be willing to feel your feelings and take responsibility for them, rather than turn to protective, controlling, addictive behavior.
You cannot change your automatic reactive behaviors until you become aware of the feelings of fear that trigger them.
What do you feel in your body when someone gets angry, blaming, or judgmental toward you?
What do you feel in your body when someone shuts down, withdraws, or becomes resistant toward you?
Take a moment to tune into your body and see what it feels like when your fears of rejection or engulfment become triggered. What happens in your stomach, your throat, your heart, your arms and legs? Does your body fill with adrenaline and go into the fight or flight reaction – the stress response?
You cannot begin to react differently when your fears of rejection or engulfment are triggered until you know that fear is being activated. You will unconsciously continue to respond with your learned protections until you become conscious of what you are protecting against.
We have all learned many ways of avoiding feeling and being conscious of our feelings. All addictive behavior – substance abuse, process addictions, reactive behavior toward others, and judgmental thoughts toward ourselves – are ways of avoiding feeling the deep loneliness, as well as helplessness over the other person’s behavior and feelings, that is at the core of all addictive behaviors. When your partner behaves in some rejecting or controlling way toward you, this deep loneliness and helplessness is activated. But these are such difficult feelings to feel that most of us will turn to our learned addictive behaviors to avoid them. We will either try to have control over the other person by getting angry, judgmental or giving in, or we will try to control the pain of the loneliness with substance and process addictions.
The only way out of this is to be willing to feel the very challenging feelings of loneliness and helplessness over others and learn to manage these feelings rather than avoid them. If you were to learn to accept and manage these feelings rather than turn to your learned protective controlling behaviors, you would begin to change the dysfunctional relationship system that may be eroding your marriage.
The Six-Step Inner Bonding process is a process for moving out of your automatic reactive behavior and into kindness and compassion toward yourself and your partner. The remaining articles in this series will show you how to do this.
Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including “Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?” and “Healing Your Aloneness.” She is the co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding® healing process. Learn Inner Bonding now! Visit her web site for a FREE Inner Bonding course: http://www.innerbonding.com or email her at margaret@innerbonding.com Phone sessions available.
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When getting married one of the things that will come up sooner or later is the wedding gift list. Do you have one? How expensive should you make the items? How specific should you be?
Generally speaking if you do not provide your guests with an indication of what you want and need then any gifts they get are probably going to be the last thing that you actually want or need. The flip side to this is that some people are not confident that the present that they buy is going to be liked or appreciated.
Depending on how close you are to the family members you invite, they may or may not have any real idea of your tastes in style and you may very well end up with a nightmare present that you have to keep around the house and pretend to love in case they come to visit. Therefore it’s a good idea to try to be as specific as possible.
A lot of department stores and big brand websites now offer the ability to create your wedding list, either in the store or online. The advantage of an online list is that it gives you a web address you can direct your guests towards, allowing them to browse through the list of items you have selected. These lists will normally link to the item allowing online purchase for the selected product and easy delivery either to the guest or the wedding venue, on the date of the wedding.
Another factor to consider is how much time people will have to spend looking for gifts. A lot of people don’t like spending time walking around shops looking for presents, and e-tail is becoming a much more popular method for purchasing.
In today’s world the majority of couple have lived together for an extended period of time before getting married. Some are bringing items and furniture from two separate households together and finding they have toasters to spare.
As a result more and more people are using their wedding lists as a way of upgrading their homes and getting in more luxurious items that they might not otherwise spend their money on.
A wedding list has the advantage of giving the guests a selection of presents the happy couple really wants. Most of the practical items needed for setting up a new home, the more traditional wedding gifts are already there.
Changing in plates and cups for more funky designer items, swapping the bath towels over to luxury bath sheets or adding some stylish soft furnishings for around the home are all more desirable to receiving another sandwich toaster to sit in the cupboard.
Why not change your cheap Tesco’s wine glasses for some Riedel Crystal, or your dinner service to something designed by Missoni Home. For more expensive items you can always ask your guests to contribute towards rather than buying the gifts outright.
Whatever gifts you decide to go for you should try to make sure that they are items that you want or will use. The most important thing though, is to enjoy the wedding.
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01.01.09
Posted in Relationships Parlor at 11:05 am by admin
Choosing your wedding rings is one of the most exciting parts of the whole experience. Your wedding rings are more than keepsakes and are signs of the love and trust you share.
When you decide to choose your wedding rings where should you start? The first thing to do when you are ready to look for wedding rings is to decide how much you want to spend. Many people decide that a month’s salary is right while others spend much more or much less.
Wedding rings can be purchased almost anywhere. There are even discount stores that have wedding rings. On the other end of the spectrum you will be able to find wedding rings at very expensive and exclusive stores and boutiques.
After you have decided on the wedding ring budget you can start visiting various jewelry stores. You will soon realize which wedding rings really appeal to you.
If you want to surprise your bride but still need a little guidance you can take her to look at wedding rings. It won’t be long and you will be able to discern which wedding rings she likes the best.
Maybe you would rather choose the wedding rings together. Another great way to choose wedding rings is to go online and look at all the choices available. When you look at wedding rings online you will find thousands of rings to choose from. Just make sure the sites are reputable and use high quality gems and materials.
If you want to design your own wedding rings you can look at jewelry stores that feature this choice. This can sometimes be more expensive but the end result will be wedding rings that are very unique. You may also be able to find websites that allow you design your wedding rings. You can look at all the possibilities and design a special set of wedding rings together.
With these wedding rings….
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Posted in Relationships Parlor at 2:49 am by admin
Everyone hopes to have a picture-perfect wedding day.
Getting to that point takes untold amounts of time, money,
energy and patience. Even the tiniest detail cannot be
left unchecked, if we have any hope of eluding Murphy’s
Law. These days, brides-to-be must even consider potential
allergic reactions to their flowers, in addition to the
more traditional details. It’s enough to crush the faint
of heart.
A big item on the wedding planning list is the flowers for
the church, the wedding party and the reception. It that
goes wrong, it can be a real disaster. Many problems can
arise in this area, such as flowers not being delivered on
time, not fresh, or not the flowers the bride ordered. Just
imagine if your perfectly orchestrated color scheme is
ruined because the wrong colored flowers arrived. Just try
sending them back or getting new ones in time. Besides the
ambiance of the wedding being ruined, there is now an upset
bride. Taking certain precautions may avoid this disaster.
The first detail to be attended to is the color scheme you
are choosing . Be sure to be decide this well advance, or
you will guarantee yoursel a headache.You will usually base
the colors of the flowers on the colors of the bridesmaids’
dresses, so decide on that before you start to look at
flowers. Stick to your color scheme and then pick flowers
in that color scheme. Be definite about the color. Some
flowers are available in just about every colors, while
others are limited. Don’t try to pick a specific type of
flower, it may not work with that color scheme, just start
with the color. Bring swatches and be ready to complement
rather than match. Before that first crucial meeting with
the florist, certain steps will prepare you.
Even though, nowadays, many flowers are available all year
long, you need to take the season of your wedding into
account when you are choosing your flowers. There is a
certain charm added to the wedding if the flowers suit the
season. Sunflowers in the middle of winter may not convey
the tone you want, plus out of season flowers arel probably
be more expensive. Formal church weddings need more
sophisticated arrangements than a wedding on the beach, so
you need to consider the type of wedding you’re planning.
When you are planning the budget for your flowers, keep
your total wedding budget in mind. A rule of thumb is to
spend ten to fifteen percent of your total wedding budget
on the flowers. Spending more than that will cause you to
skimp on other more important items. Discuss your budget
and its limitations honestly with your florist at the very
beginning. He can work with you to explore different ideas
that will make your day perfect and still keep this lovely
part of your wedding in budget.
You also have to consider the size of the bouquets for both
you and your bridesmaids,the shade of your gown, if you are
going to have an additional bouquet to toss, and the
temperature of the season, if you will be outdoors for any
lenghth of time. (Many flowers react badly to very cold
temperatures.) And as if that is not enough to worry about,
you need to worry about pollen that may stain your gown.
(For example, lilies should have stamens removed because
of this problem.) Be flexible, and make sure you take the
advice of your florist.He wants your day to be perfect too.
About The Author
Peter Carnater runs the website Flowers Niche which is a site dedicated to providing all the very latest news and views related to flowers. This is a complete flowers research center providing easy access to everything flowers related. Please vistit http://www.flowersniche.com for any questions or comments about this article.
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12.21.08
Posted in Relationships Parlor at 9:58 am by admin
Few modern weddings manage to avoid the ritual of wedding
favors. Traditionally, wedding favors are usually placed on the
table, in front of every guest, although this idea seems to have
diminished, in recent years. Choices of Wedding Favors
Trying to select a small gift that is going to appeal to the
entire wedding party is tricky, to say the least. Arguably it is
impossible! However, there are ways to avoid giving
inappropriate wedding favors, while also keeping the budget in
check. Why not simply create a selection of sweets and
chocolates that can be placed in the center of the table for all
to pick at. This is a great way of allowing people to choose
their own gifts, without having to worry about issues of taste.
With a small, intimate party, it is actually possible to
select gifts, individually. This is only really possible when
the party is very small; normally a maximum of thirty is
appropriate for these types of wedding favors. If you take this
approach, be certain that position the wedding favors correctly
and inline with the table settings or you might just find that
your carefully selected wedding favors end up in the wrong
hands! Edibles are always a good choice when it comes to
wedding favors as many people are getting quite hungry after the
ceremony and photographs. Sugared almonds are considered to be
the traditional wedding favors. However, the fact of the matter
is that not many people actually enjoy sugared almonds, so it
may be better to consider an alternative. Why not use chocolates
or sweets instead? If you are in a warm climate chocolates will
need to be stored in a refrigerator until the last minute, so
make sure that you have this facility. Alternatives to Wedding
Favors Moving away from the more traditional types of wedding
favors, you may wish to consider a more modern and innovative
approach. By daring to be different, not only can you save
yourself some money, but you are also more likely to make a
lasting impression on your guests. Some different ideas for
wedding favors include a lottery card each, but think about how
you would react if someone wins big-time on the ticket that you
have bought! If this thought does not appeal, then consider
having a raffle where everyone is given a ticket and there is a
range of prizes available. Another great idea could be to
place a bowl of goodies such as chocolates sweets and alcohol
miniatures, in the center of the table, allowing a bit of
potluck for the guests. If you have a bit more time on your
hands, you could wrap the wedding favors up and allow guests to
select their own and take a chance on the outcome. One of the
key things to remember with wedding favors is that you want to
generate discussion. When guests arrive at a wedding reception,
they are often slightly shy or timid and having a game involving
wedding favors will do wonders to break the ice!
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11.21.08
Posted in Relationships Parlor at 4:26 am by admin
Wedding toasts are a great way to wish the new couple well, but it can be
hard to get it just right if you’ve never done it before. If you feel a lot of emotion about the union, it may be even more difficult to get the toast just right. Keeping it simple really helps, as well as keeping it short. Remember that a toast is simply a way to let the new couple know that you are excited for them, and that you were happy that they made you a part of their day. The more you try to put into a toast the more complicated it can be, so don’t try to pack too much into the toast.
Wedding Speech
Below is a very simple toast that you can use regardless of how well you know
both of the bride and the groom. This is also a great way to make a toast when
you really want to wish the couple well but you aren’t too sure what to say!
“First, I wanted to say congratulations to Bill and Nancy! I am so happy
for the both of you and I know that today is the first day of what will be a
very long marriage. I also want to thank the two of you for inviting me and
making me a part of your big day. I know that there will be many more
celebrations of your love and your marriage in the future!”
Below is a more intimate toast that you will find works well for close
friends and family and will help you convey a bit more personal emotion.
“Congratulations, you two! I know that everyone is saying great things to
you, but I had to get up and really express how happy I am for you. I know
that both of you have been looking forward to this day for quite awhile, and
I have to say that it couldn’t have been more beautiful. I know that you
have a lot of great plans for the future and I can’t wait to sit back and
watch them unfold for you. Congratulations, Bill and Nancy!”
As you can see, you can keep it really simple or you can add a bit more
personalization to a toast. Usually a toast is just a few minutes long, so you
don’t need to get into long stories or convoluted hopes for the new couple.
Instead, keep things short and sweet but be sure to convey your happiness for
the new couple. If you don’t know the personalities of both the bride and the
groom well, keep humor limited and clean, just so that you are sure you don’t
offend anyone.
Article by James Nardel, expert author at EasyWeddingToasts.com. For more information on free wedding speeches and wedding toasts, free toasting tips with speech samples visit http://www.easyweddingtoasts.com
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